Candice: In the last week I have celebrated a number of birthday events. My niece’s first, mine and my Dad’s 80th. Erin is also five months old (oh how that has flown). It made me think about the impact of all these people and how we must pass things down befween family and all these individuals to make sure they aren’t forgotten.
Two years ago my Aunt died. She and my Dad hadn’t got on for years but they did make up just before she passed away. However, due to this there were lots of stories about his childhood that they didn’t have chance to reminisce on so he could write them down. He grew in pubs around Birmingham but couldn’t remember them all, now we will never know those stories.
Erin is growing every day and I have been writing her story each week so we can remember how she has changed. She’s now got a personality and reacts to us, much more than that crying blob she was a few months ago. But, there is so much going on we will look back and think, ‘when did she do this, when did she do that’. I’m sure she’ll go ‘oh parents you are so boring!’
As part of her arrival Richard and I have been looking at getting a Will, and had to write down everything of value we have, both financial and sentimental. The book is one of the things down on this list as its very important to me and I think it’s Erin’s legacy, whether or not it makes any money.
I’m determined that both these real and fictitious stories that exist in my life have a life after I am going, and that things are recorded so that they can be remembered. I’m not a hoarder but I do like to look back and remember when things happened, and think where I was and what I was doing at that point in time. I don’t do it by keeping objects but by writing a diary, or even the book as there are factual parts in the fiction.
What do you do to keep your memories alive?