Candice: If I’d written this post yesterday there would be a lot of expletives. I was fuming from being bitch slapped by the breastfeeding mom nazis. (That’s the polite version on my feelings)
I won’t go into detail but I now have an insight into why Daisy Waugh wrote the book I am currently dipping into, the one that Phil managed to get a signed copy for me. It’s called – ‘ I don’t know why she bothers’. I gave an opinion on something, advice I’d been passed by another mother and was pretty much told I was a bad mother for saying it.
I’m not going to review it now as I haven’t read it all yet. I’m dipping into sections as I come across them with Erin’s development so I’ll be reading it for years.
But that, and the situation yesterday, made me think. I, unfortunately, can come across as bossy and a bit of a know it all when it comes to life. I’ve done a few things, travelled to a few places and have some life experience. So when someone offers something I can add an opinion to, I often do. However, this has caught me out a few times as people take offence and think I am trying to teach them something, though I am only trying to help.
Sometimes I just wish I could shut my trap, but I can’t help it when I see people who are in the wrong, be that driving in the middle lane of the motorway, queue jumping in a shop or making life hard for themselves as the world has convinced them that it makes them a bad mom to do it any other way. My other half is worse on the driving gesticulation front though!
Phil and I have been to numerous events over the years about how to write. They have been informative, useful and generally given us a few pointers (and helped us pick up some writing buddies) but they don’t have the panacea for getting that book published.
Just yesterday we got some positive feedback on the book, but in a rejection email, so we are still plugging away at it like everyone else. But we’d like to think that a few pointers here and there can help along the way.
But I think sometimes people take everything they read on the web as gospel. The internet can be extremely helpful but also your worst enemy, whether you are looking for ways to make a six-week old baby sleep, or ways to get your book published. Too much information!
So I hope you like our musing on the blog but people, don’t feel that this is the be all and end all. And when we do get published, certainly buy our books and attend our events when we talk about how to get published, but don’t forget to do it your own way.